The Search 4

If you want to search for the real self within you, you have to push yourself past the boundaries at times. Create new experiences, try out new things, go for something that is out of your comfort zone. Try it the first time, notice your reaction. Try it the second time, see if you handle it better than before. Try it the 3rd time. Does it become less threatening? Try it the 10th time, does it still bother you? Try it more than 20 times, has it become 2nd nature? If you realise that you grow to like it. BRAVO. Maybe you just discover a part of yourself that was not allowed to surface before. If you hate it, it just means you see yourself clearer than before, you are now aware of one more thing that irks you or makes you feel uncomfortable.

The search for oneself is sometimes painful or even lonely but at the end, it may be worth it. Hopefully, at the end of the rainbow, you will find your own pot of gold.

If you ever feel lost, lonely, upset, seek solace that there are a few hundred thousands people out there that are not even experiencing the wealth of emotions that you are experiencing because it has never dawn to them that they are lost. Is ignorance really bliss or one day, these people will just wake up, regretting the times they lost while in denial.

If the search for what you want is so painful that you can't bear it, take a break. Relook at your options. Do you still have any other choices? Is everything worth the pain? If it is not worth it, then maybe it is not so important to you after all. If after reflection, you still want it badly. Take a break, rest enough and continue your pursue.

Humans give up too easily and regret too much,appreciate too little and lament too often, doubt too much and believe otherwise.

In the face of challenges, I implore everyone to just think if all probs stem from your own cognitions. If your probs are mainly due to the way you see things and you see yourself, please be less harsh on yourself and your love ones. Love yourself more. Even if you can't love yourself, the least minimum is to accept.

Easier said than done but definitely something that we shld try because your world is shaped by the way you treat yourself.